Baggage Breakdowns with Nyemade

[00:00:00] Hey listeners, welcome to Baggage Claim. I'm your host Lauren Osborne and you know what we do on this podcast

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[00:00:19] We talk about the breakdown of baggage when you're having a mental breakdown and what that looks like

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[00:00:58] Hey listeners welcome to baggage claim. I'm your host Lauren Osborne

[00:01:23] And as you know on this podcast it's a place where each episode we talk about our baggage

[00:01:29] We explore the contents of our luggage and we pick something to check in and a souvenir to bring with us

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[00:01:50] Thank you for having me known as that African butterfly

[00:01:53] Or that African butterfly. That's me right

[00:01:56] Hey girl happy Tuesday. It is Tuesday. Yes

[00:02:01] I'm very looking forward to

[00:02:05] Salt Lake Sydney

[00:02:07] Is that tonight? Yes. Okay. Yes

[00:02:10] I don't normally watch them as they occur so like I catch them later

[00:02:14] But like I've been watching the last couple but I still always forget like what night stuff is on

[00:02:18] I feel like I've been doing the other ones delayed but not not this

[00:02:26] After that finale. Yeah, but I kind of want to because you get the unedited

[00:02:33] The uncensored one on people

[00:02:35] Hmm, right. Yeah, that's what you see

[00:02:39] Anyway, anyhow, how are you doing? I'm good. I'm good

[00:02:43] stress but blessed

[00:02:45] Stress but bless. Okay. Do you want a regular icebreaker question or do you want a?

[00:02:52] so

[00:02:53] Card what's a so card so it is so a collection of questions for deeper discussions

[00:03:03] Sure, let's go deep. Okay. I'm just gonna pick a random. Oh, okay

[00:03:09] It's your final 24 hours on earth

[00:03:13] You're in great shape and have limitless funds

[00:03:18] What do you do?

[00:03:20] well

[00:03:22] Winston Duke and I

[00:03:27] No, if I

[00:03:29] Unlimited funds in great shape. It's my last 24 hours like

[00:03:34] I'm hanging with my family especially like my younger siblings

[00:03:37] My older siblings too, but like I'm with my family and we're doing fun stuff for being silly

[00:03:42] We're having a good time

[00:03:44] We're going out dancing at night leaving like my mom home with the grandkids and you know

[00:03:48] The siblings are going out and we're like partying. It's a good time

[00:03:51] Like I'll miss all of my friends but my siblings are also like my besties

[00:03:55] So that's what I'd want to do my last 24 hours with that's beautiful

[00:04:02] Thank you

[00:04:05] I

[00:04:08] Feel like I meant like a level of toxic that I'm just like wow I feel like my last 24 I would be

[00:04:20] Flying to help my family and friends

[00:04:24] I feel like to a secure like location, right? Yeah, maybe we create

[00:04:33] Like the party scene from like get a great Gatsby, but I

[00:04:38] Intimate right yeah, yeah, yeah

[00:04:42] And

[00:04:44] Like I said it I said it if I made it to 90 years old or a hundred or if it's my last 24 hours on earth

[00:04:50] I'm probably gonna party down and

[00:04:53] I'm probably gonna try you I

[00:04:55] Was gonna say that there's gonna try recreational things. I probably try I would go recreational honestly

[00:05:01] It's the last 24 give me my

[00:05:05] Anyways, right I'm going out, but I want everyone there. They don't have to participate

[00:05:11] But I like that even better cuz I love a good house party

[00:05:15] Love it so much better and if I have all the money it can be huge house

[00:05:19] Alright, I take your idea too. I'm doing that

[00:05:24] I'm just like let's just do it y'all guess else for the respectable people and everywhere else for us

[00:05:34] Like rent out in a state like make sure there is at least like a beautiful deck or a way to water so there's things

[00:05:41] There's a kid area. I mean honestly

[00:05:45] With that 24 hours left and a lot of so okay

[00:05:50] All right last one and we're hot so we're hooking up a lot with a lot of people exactly. I mean it said

[00:05:58] You're in great shape, so that will be like literally

[00:06:02] Living it up living it up

[00:06:05] They'd make a movie after

[00:06:08] okay, ooh

[00:06:10] Okay, oh god

[00:06:13] What would detectives assume about you if they inspected your room without ever meeting you?

[00:06:25] That I'm obsessed with clothes

[00:06:27] That I'm messy because there's clothes and stuff everywhere just straight up everywhere

[00:06:35] Mostly that and I like the color pink if my room was finished if I'd ever finished decorating it

[00:06:40] They'd also get a sense that I'm like a sophisticated bohemian type

[00:06:47] Doesn't give those vibes yet, but it does give that I like pink. I think for me they would be like gosh

[00:06:54] If only she was neat

[00:06:58] Right

[00:07:00] I feel like my room is cute

[00:07:04] But it also like it's tiny and I have a bed that honestly if we're gonna be honest the room should fit

[00:07:11] It could be safe with a fool

[00:07:13] I've got a queen and like a dresser that just takes up a lot of space

[00:07:17] So there's not a lot of space in there, you know, yeah, but I think they would find

[00:07:23] some of the a lot of clothes

[00:07:27] half half

[00:07:28] Drunk in bottled waters

[00:07:31] Even though I have a Stanley right because it's also right by my bed. I don't know how I like pour them into it

[00:07:37] But I don't want to pour all of it into I don't know it's weird, right?

[00:07:41] Okay, so bottled water that are not completely empty

[00:07:46] Just surfaces are bad for me. But yeah, that's what they'd see

[00:07:50] I like it. I like it

[00:07:53] Okay, so what are we?

[00:07:56] Unpacking today. Well, I know what we're unpacking today. Do you want me to describe it? Yes, please?

[00:08:02] Most of the most okay. Yes, okay on today's episode

[00:08:07] We okay, honestly how we got here was we were discussing the viral video of

[00:08:15] someone really just going through it at the airport and

[00:08:20] Honestly, I know this word is overused so I will say he gave a memorable like I don't want to say performance

[00:08:27] but he kind of had a meltdown and that's what we were talking about like

[00:08:32] Let's unpack

[00:08:34] meltdowns they could be public or private but I

[00:08:37] Feel like everyone has had that moment

[00:08:40] Maybe it was it like the airport. Maybe it was somewhere else

[00:08:44] But I do feel like there they are learning

[00:08:48] They're just experiences right you can make of them what you want

[00:08:53] but

[00:08:54] Let's not normalize looking a mess

[00:08:57] But let's talk about it because I feel like everyone's had a Shelby and Dolly think about the girls moment

[00:09:04] Shelby and Dolly

[00:09:07] Think about the girl. Oh love it loved it. Yeah, I believe I don't I think that was like

[00:09:13] What airport was that was it Charlotte? I have no clue. Yeah, who wants to go first?

[00:09:20] You or me? I'll go first. I'll go first

[00:09:24] So what made me think about this and I was telling Lauren is that like, you know

[00:09:29] Like she mentioned the airport moment like we see people have those meltdowns

[00:09:32] And I really have I think a little bit more tolerance for them than others

[00:09:37] just because I've had my

[00:09:39] Meltdown moment where it was like something so little but because I was holding so much other stuff in it caused me to just

[00:09:46] Pull on meltdown now. I always like to say though like that doesn't excuse like

[00:09:51] Bigotry racism all the isms and trees and phobias that you could those flers no matter how bad life is like that's

[00:09:59] Not acceptable, right your regular flipping out meltdown maybe cursing whatever like that

[00:10:05] I can be like maybe they're just having maybe they're just going through it

[00:10:10] because I had one where I

[00:10:12] spilled my water and I started sobbing like

[00:10:17] So like I never had something like so small and unconsequence. Oh like

[00:10:23] Cause it's like a flood of emotions for me

[00:10:26] And it was mom's I was crying there for a while

[00:10:28] And I was home at the time visiting my mom and she came in the room and I'm like cry

[00:10:35] She's like

[00:10:41] But like I just I lost it it felt good after but like that moment, but I just was like a so glad I had it at home

[00:10:51] Not in public somewhere

[00:10:52] But I've also had times where I felt close to it in public where like things were just going wrong

[00:10:56] And I felt like oh my gosh one more thing happens. I'm gonna lose it

[00:11:00] So

[00:11:02] But usually in public I hold it together, but at home. I just let it go. That was my my meltdown moment

[00:11:11] And thank you for sharing I feel like I've had a few I feel like

[00:11:17] Public spaces. I don't know. I don't think so

[00:11:22] actually I went with like

[00:11:24] my mom and her friend and

[00:11:28] I think my

[00:11:31] Brother-in-law who had passed away same skin and we went to see a star is born

[00:11:37] and I feel like I was crying at the end of the movie because it was sad

[00:11:44] but like it turned into

[00:11:47] Like weeping right like it was well over

[00:11:51] I just felt like I was I couldn't really stop crying for a while

[00:11:55] I felt like that was one and then another one was I had gotten into like a flash

[00:12:02] blood right like raining like pouring down rain and

[00:12:08] The I got off of the highway because it was

[00:12:12] Dangerous, I couldn't see and so I didn't just like pull over off the highway

[00:12:16] I pulled off onto like an exit ramp and honestly

[00:12:21] I was in I was with like a row of cars and the light

[00:12:25] Changed and what was crazy is all of us went forward

[00:12:28] But we didn't realize that it was flooded if the light was reflecting the water

[00:12:35] Like the ground. Yeah, and I

[00:12:39] Did you all get stuck?

[00:12:42] Yeah

[00:12:44] We're like I'm trying to like pack my stuff because I had just come back from

[00:12:49] Going to

[00:12:50] Right to see my my mom and to it was just again a lot on the plate

[00:12:56] And then this just happened to be like mother nature just being like

[00:13:01] You know, that's what it felt like. Yeah, so we I had to get out of the car

[00:13:06] I had to like get my like duffel bag

[00:13:08] I still remember this outfit like completely. I was like a yellow romper. I had to grab my dog Stella

[00:13:14] I was with my then I feel like we were just a couple, right?

[00:13:19] But it's like my ex-husband and we have to get out of the car

[00:13:24] We opened the doors of the car. This is also why I'm like SUV your best. I can't do it as to Dan again

[00:13:30] Water was like rising like it had already

[00:13:34] It was oh my gosh terrifying, but yeah

[00:13:37] We made it. Thank you to the most yeah, but we had to like run like soaking wet and

[00:13:44] We ran to like this gas station, but it was closed right so but thankfully there was just like this

[00:13:50] Overpass and there was just water flooding and this girl. She was like hey

[00:13:54] Do y'all want to sit in my car while?

[00:13:57] Just to like warm up and we were like, yeah

[00:14:00] thank you and we just like sat there and like she just played music and

[00:14:05] Waited to like our toe got there, but it was really nice, but my car was total

[00:14:12] But my freak out was like I freaked out because I was I took the exit like that was not

[00:14:18] I thought maybe that was like the safer route than pulling over on the side of the road. Yeah

[00:14:23] And so I freaked out at me. I freaked out at my ex-husband

[00:14:27] I just like lost it like screaming and crying at the same time

[00:14:32] So thank God the girl didn't see that part right? Yeah, let us in the car right yeah

[00:14:39] But yeah, that was my that was my

[00:14:43] Understandable freak out. Yeah, I feel like you're kind of allowed those just don't be a monster

[00:14:49] Right like keep it in check like you're still held accountable

[00:14:52] It's like those time I was watching this clip of this lady at hotel

[00:14:57] She's trying to check in and she called the person the n-word and then so he's like well you can't check in and she's like

[00:15:04] I'm sorry. I was just so upset and he's like it's above me now

[00:15:07] Yeah, yeah, I like you like no matter how upset you are those words don't come out of your mouth

[00:15:12] Unless they're pretty real vocabulary and we all can say things that we didn't mean

[00:15:17] To say when we are upset, but it's not things we don't think at some point

[00:15:22] I do hate when people say like oh you think what you're really feeling when you're angry because I don't always think that that's true

[00:15:28] I think when you're angry you say what you've thought

[00:15:32] But that doesn't mean that that's constantly your active thought especially since most of the time

[00:15:36] People are just saying things to hurt or make the other person angry, right?

[00:15:40] They're like going for the jugular but that doesn't necessarily mean that's what they think and feel about you all the time

[00:15:44] I just feel like if that's the route you go you're not a person I want to know

[00:15:50] Well, yeah, I mean there's that part there's that you know, there's just that right like it's just like

[00:15:56] Like Taylor and it shows like low intellect. You know, yeah, right?

[00:16:02] Yep, and I hate the people who like tell all the secrets the minute they're mad at someone because I'm like

[00:16:07] Oh, I know I can't tell you anything because I'm gonna get upset you will be telling everybody everything

[00:16:12] But yeah, no, it's like oh that's what I'm like with Taylor and Olivia have you watched?

[00:16:17] Yeah

[00:16:20] Secret

[00:16:23] Little premise right I can do a quick breakdown

[00:16:26] Kind of sorta these girls were supposed to be friends. I mean and one betrayed Taylor betrayed Olivia

[00:16:33] And it happened. I'm not gonna go into the details

[00:16:37] But like she's already apologized because at one point she knew that she was wrong for betraying Olivia

[00:16:43] Okay, and then we get to the reunion and

[00:16:47] Taylor tries to I guess embarrass or gotcha Olivia

[00:16:53] By revealing that she had a one-night stand with a predator

[00:16:58] Who was a family friend?

[00:17:00] And she tried to tell like reveal that to make Olivia look bad and it was just so ugly

[00:17:06] It's gross

[00:17:07] But I mean like that goes to prove why Olivia doesn't want to be friends with her

[00:17:12] I feel like people like that will show and prove their hand of why people don't want to deal with you

[00:17:18] And then they're upset about it

[00:17:20] It's like well because well a those type of people are used to manipulating other people right like they're used to batting

[00:17:25] Their lashes and getting people to fawn over them like JT fawns over Taylor and

[00:17:29] Getting people to see like the surface of who they put up not the actuality of who they are underneath it

[00:17:34] But when you get to someone who sees the actuality of who they are and they don't like you like that's a huge

[00:17:40] Problem and that's what we see with Taylor and Olivia because Olivia sees Taylor for who she is and Taylor can't stand it that she can't like

[00:17:49] Shmoos Olivia over but then she does shit like that like what she did at the reunion and it's like that's

[00:17:55] Exactly why she doesn't want to deal with you all you do is continue to prove even like that night where she was like

[00:18:00] So they were all on vacation and the news came out on like page six or whatever

[00:18:05] And so they were talking about it Olivia was upset again because she's like I feel like you guys are lying to me

[00:18:10] And so this keeps getting brought up and so Taylor acted like she was so sorry so upset about it

[00:18:15] But then got in her room and was on the phone with somebody saying just bullshit nonsense

[00:18:20] Just trash talking nonsense and Olivia could hear everything and Olivia is like exactly

[00:18:24] I know that's what you actually think and feel so that's why I'm having a problem with this and it's just like

[00:18:30] Taylor just continues to prove why Olivia is making the right choice for herself. I agree

[00:18:35] I mean, I loved it when she was like effin see you next Tuesday

[00:18:40] No, but I mean like that's what she was being yeah people are just so I feel like

[00:18:45] Master manipulators really have a hard problem with people who they can't manipulate as well like I'm jumping reality stations here

[00:18:53] But okay marriage Huntsville Martell and melody

[00:18:56] Mm-hmm. Oh, and I tell you I can't stand Martell

[00:19:00] Even like with most reality stuff. There's people who I'm like, I don't like him that much

[00:19:04] But whatever like I can't stand Martell and it's because he's such a liar like a blatant liar

[00:19:10] Like will be caught lying and still lie and liars like that are scary to me because it's like

[00:19:16] All like cuz they'll say whatever they know they can say whatever and all they need to do is plant that seed of doubt

[00:19:21] And he doesn't

[00:19:23] Repeatedly to melody and you never know if he's telling the truth or not

[00:19:26] But we do know that he lies

[00:19:28] outright all the time

[00:19:31] Apologizes whenever he apologizes. It's like but I but and this is this other person's but it's why it's everyone else's fault or other

[00:19:39] People do too. You never can just apologize. He's just that man irks me

[00:19:44] Do you feel like he has meltdowns or breakdowns or is he having?

[00:19:49] He's or is he on the flip growing tantrums or like playing it up

[00:19:55] He throws tantrums. He's not having like a meltdown. It's not like a one straw broke the back

[00:20:00] It's that he feels very much so that he is a man

[00:20:04] And he should be respected and he should be above any type of like sensor

[00:20:08] For anyone bothering him or anyone calling him into question

[00:20:12] So the minute someone does especially when it's a woman, he has a problem with it

[00:20:16] So when it gets piled on in any way or done in any way that makes him look bad

[00:20:22] He loses his shit like if melody does or says anything whether it's the truth or not

[00:20:27] Whether he's been lying or not. He will lose it

[00:20:31] And he has tantrums not meltdown not breakdowns or meltdowns his tantrums true

[00:20:36] Well, I would say I guess what is the thing that keeps you from actually

[00:20:42] Going apeshit. I feel like it's lever energy, right? Most of the time

[00:20:47] I feel like I can actually can you know, like contain that right or not like misdirected

[00:20:54] Yeah, and I think sometimes I guess for me. I find it surprising when

[00:21:01] maybe people can't yeah, you know that

[00:21:06] Elevating things to ten is like a regular

[00:21:09] I guess occurrence or response and for and then I feel like I don't know that could be too much for me

[00:21:16] Yeah, no, it definitely is for me like I like keeping things pretty

[00:21:21] Copacetic and calm, you know in my life and like whatever I can do to keep my North Star pointed at calm is what I'll do

[00:21:29] Even if that means like how I talk to myself

[00:21:31] So like if someone is driving like a maniac and I want to be annoyed

[00:21:36] But instead I tell myself it's a new driver or senior citizen and that calms me down

[00:21:40] Then that's what I got to do

[00:21:43] And I feel like that's doing stuff like that is what helps me in public too

[00:21:48] Like you know, like I was saying like if I see someone having like a meltdown

[00:21:51] I tell myself that person's been going through a lot of stuff and even though they're melting down over something stupid

[00:21:56] It's the straw that broke the camel's back and like I don't live in a rose color tinted world

[00:22:02] Like I know some of those people are just being assholes

[00:22:04] And I know some people just can't drive and I know all like I am aware of the bad of it

[00:22:09] But like focusing on the negative only takes away from my piece and it only makes me upset like there are so many times like

[00:22:16] And this is where I really started it within the car is like 30 so many times or something

[00:22:20] Someone would do like a stupid maneuver and I'm angry and I'm like muttering to myself for like the next like 10 miles

[00:22:27] That person has gone. It was a moment in the second in their life

[00:22:30] They're living their life and I'm still holding on to being frustrated. So it's causing me peace

[00:22:35] So for that it's just like whatever I can tell myself

[00:22:39] Within reason to keep my peace and keep me calm

[00:22:43] Helps so I think that because I naturally navigate through life that way

[00:22:47] I'm already like a couple degrees lower in the calm level than most people

[00:22:52] So like it really takes a lot to get yeah, like it takes a lot

[00:22:57] It takes a decent amount just to get an actual reaction out of me

[00:23:00] But like over-the-top reaction like

[00:23:03] You really have to be doing wrong like really and even then I'm more likely to cry first

[00:23:08] Because I'm trying to win like maintain like my anger. I'm a little more likely to start crying

[00:23:14] Right, I do I do switch to tears as well

[00:23:17] But I will say that like you know

[00:23:20] Driving I feel like it's like maybe a different thing right like I feel as if I do I feel like I do

[00:23:27] project on the road right like I

[00:23:30] I'm a person that I will be like mother. I mean

[00:23:34] But here's the thing I got this extra large rear view mirror, right?

[00:23:41] So I literally will catch myself and I'm like honestly

[00:23:45] You still need to like look like you're stinging in the car because also I live in Texas. Okay, like

[00:23:51] Yeah, yeah, I'm safety first people have guns like the road rage you decide could be your life period

[00:23:59] Yeah, so I try to make it to where I'm still you know

[00:24:03] I still look like I'm driving while also

[00:24:06] Trying to tell myself that it is perhaps a new driver or the elderly

[00:24:10] But if you're on some F thing if you're on some on some bullshit, I'm good and sometimes I have to hunt. I mean

[00:24:19] Sometimes you just you got to get it out for me

[00:24:21] It's more just like I don't like hanging on to being upset because I'm the same way like

[00:24:26] I

[00:24:28] But I could be like but see if I were one of those if I were one of those people it would be better

[00:24:35] But I'm like we're like, you know three exits down and I'm like and another thing

[00:24:41] Like because it's the playing over and over in my mind

[00:24:44] Like I have to put like if I don't push things out of my mind right away

[00:24:47] I dwell on them for a while and like replay them over and over again and like

[00:24:52] Reanalyze every it's exhausting and I hate it. So I try to keep it pushing keep it moving

[00:24:57] Yeah, I feel like I do that too much and so then it's like no girl you're just associating

[00:25:01] You're not even catching anything everything is moving forward. You're not receiving it there might be some of them in the present

[00:25:08] I do that. I definitely do that and it's something, you know

[00:25:11] I feel like if that's if that's something that I'm gonna check in right?

[00:25:15] I mean, I don't know if we're there yet, but I know what I'm checking in for

[00:25:19] For this it's checking in your disassociating. What am I checking in? I'm checking in

[00:25:25] Holding things in

[00:25:26] I'm checking that in because I am all about just

[00:25:31] Say it just get it out your chest. Don't let there be misunderstandings

[00:25:35] That's one of the thing about growing up like reading historical romances and like right now

[00:25:40] I'm all into like the K dramas

[00:25:42] So many problems to be avoided if people would just like use their words and like ask questions or like

[00:25:48] Figure stuff out instead. They have like misunderstandings and I know it's needed for the plot of the show or movie

[00:25:53] But it happens to a lot of people in real life, too

[00:25:56] Just a lot of misunderstanding just ask the question

[00:26:00] Here's how it makes you look

[00:26:03] What would be a

[00:26:06] Question that you would ask the lead person and what you're watching right now

[00:26:13] The lead okay, so okay, so I'm watching marry my husband right now. It's so good. So it's about this woman who

[00:26:21] she

[00:26:23] got sick and she got cancer and

[00:26:26] She went home and found her husband cheating with her best friend and

[00:26:30] They got in a fight and he ends up killing her and she wakes up

[00:26:34] 10 years in the past and

[00:26:37] She's basically like so 10 years ago. They hadn't gotten married yet. They're just dating

[00:26:42] She remembers everything but for everyone else it's like first life, right?

[00:26:45] So she has a chance to like redo it all and she like you see these moments that she's had

[00:26:50] Like how they went the first time around and you realize like her best friend is like

[00:26:54] Like them

[00:26:56] Forever has been ruining this girl's life forever for fun. Oh my god. I can't stand that girl

[00:27:02] So um, and then there's the super hot lead. I don't want to give it all the way but there's a secret about him too

[00:27:08] Um, but it's really good

[00:27:10] So if I could if I could ask her anything

[00:27:15] I would ask

[00:27:23] Why have a general question for people who go back in the past

[00:27:27] In the past which is like

[00:27:32] What stopped you from being more assertive in the present?

[00:27:36] Like what was it that you found was so scary in the present that didn't let you say

[00:27:42] What you wanted to say or ask what you wanted to ask but now that because that's the thing right with these

[00:27:47] Shows where people go back in time. It's what I love about them too

[00:27:50] Is like they go back and they start giving zero f's like they're just like boldly living life because

[00:27:56] What's the worst that can happen? And I'm always like, why can't we live like that now?

[00:27:59] Like I try to sometimes it's I mean it's hard but like

[00:28:02] Why do you need to come back to live like that?

[00:28:04] Like we should remember that because really some of like we're always so scared

[00:28:08] But like what are we scared of like who's grounding us the public opinion that we're scared of like how does that impact us?

[00:28:14] Like what are we really scared of do what you want just do what you want. I feel that amen

[00:28:22] Let's just snap with it. Let's see. Well, I feel like is there anything else you want to chat about?

[00:28:27] I mean I could keep going. I love this blonde on you. Thank you. Thank you

[00:28:31] I've been wanting to go back one for a little while and then I keep avoiding like it looks so good

[00:28:35] It's very high maintenance. Like I feel like I have to be cute when I have the blonde like

[00:28:40] It has to all be together. So it's high maintenance. I don't think I like it

[00:28:43] But you look great. Thank you

[00:28:46] It's giving what Giselle Bryant wanted

[00:28:49] On watch what happens live, but it didn't do it

[00:28:51] It didn't get that can we just do it with like a tiny mini I might cut this guy's like on a potomac flop era

[00:28:58] I'm so sad. I didn't even watch it. I'm done with it. I'm done with it. It's not great

[00:29:03] It hasn't been not I'm so grateful for Karen. I'm so great. I'm a clip girl now

[00:29:08] Because I'm not going to dedicate the time until there's just like it's hard because they don't really like each other

[00:29:14] And like some of them are like well rock

[00:29:16] The half of them don't want to talk about what's going on with their stuff

[00:29:18] Robin doesn't want to talk about one. Candice can't talk about the court thing

[00:29:22] Wendy doesn't want to talk about her mom understandable her mom's sick

[00:29:25] But like then you have Nekka in here trying to just throw up trouble over whatever and like, I don't know

[00:29:30] It's just it all feels very put on

[00:29:34] and very like

[00:29:36] Not interesting. I feel like they need

[00:29:39] I mean without Karen it'd be over

[00:29:41] Right. I wish Monique would come back. I wish Candice and Monique

[00:29:45] Would make up and Monique would come back. I love Monique

[00:29:48] I did enjoy her but I feel like her maybe her reality time there is done

[00:29:52] I think she's over it. Yeah, you know and that's okay

[00:29:56] but I mean

[00:29:58] I'm trying to think they haven't had very many people

[00:30:01] So we don't know who they we could just like bring on

[00:30:04] Yeah

[00:30:06] But it needs to be someone that they like and I feel like they can pretend like they don't have

[00:30:12] They don't hold grudges and

[00:30:14] They're open to things and it's you know, it's of course. It's not them. They're laid back whatever

[00:30:20] But like reasonably shady. They are shady, right? Like stop pretending

[00:30:27] That things that like stop

[00:30:30] Playing in my face when I'm watching this like you don't like Candice

[00:30:34] You can you can't yeah

[00:30:36] You can say you don't influence Robin, but y'all are literally now in Pahoots to take her off the show

[00:30:44] Call a thing a thing. I don't like it and that's my Potomac Grant

[00:30:49] I hear you. I hear you. How are you at Beverly Hills right now?

[00:30:53] I need to bring back bull back and addicted to bravo. I keep not doing it

[00:30:56] I'm like, uh

[00:30:58] But then I want to talk bravo. So I need to like let's talk about it

[00:31:01] This will be like a little segway

[00:31:03] segway into I

[00:31:05] I'm definitely enjoying Beverly Hills. I

[00:31:09] need to rewatch it because I only watched

[00:31:13] I think like the second half of it

[00:31:15] I feel like I missed the first 20 or I missed a section of it

[00:31:17] But I just love how nice their trips are all the time, you know

[00:31:22] Like they just are same with married to medicine. I mean like that's how you do it

[00:31:26] But sorry back to Beverly Hills. Um

[00:31:30] I think it's been a good season. Um Denise

[00:31:32] MVP

[00:31:33] Really, Denise is the MVP of uh bringing it with the fights with Erica. I've enjoyed them some good lines there

[00:31:40] Uh, sudden, I don't know what she's on but I like it

[00:31:43] I mean, well, I mean, I don't know what Denise could have done

[00:31:46] I don't I don't know if she even said anything bless her heart

[00:31:50] We've got to actually I mean we can give it to Denise, but it's really it is Erica. That's doing that

[00:31:55] Oh, it is. Yeah, I just like Denise is instigating of it

[00:31:59] Reads I feel like but

[00:32:02] Oh, yeah both. Both. Yeah. I really have been enjoying it. I I do like name them

[00:32:08] I do like Sutton. I think I love that she is

[00:32:12] Still standing up for some I love this slow

[00:32:15] It's not even slow because we know what crystal has in her right like we've seen it

[00:32:21] But like I just love her being like don't play in my like the face because Ann Marie Anna Marie

[00:32:28] Yeah, a disappointment. She can go. All right girl. This has been fun

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