Care Consistency - check in on yourself

[00:00:00] Hey frequent flyers, welcome to baggage claim.

[00:00:03] I'm your host Lauren Osborn.

[00:00:06] On today's episode, we're just talking about the baggage of life, what care consistency

[00:00:11] looks like, and I share about my highs and lows of Denmark, and my guest Tempest being

[00:00:17] a little overwhelmed, a little overloaded, but don't worry, when the episode ends, we

[00:00:22] both feel a lot lighter.

[00:00:23] Thank you so much as always, Hi, thank you for having me. I like that introduction. I should start saying. Thank you. I'm definitely true. I should drive you to the mark. I'm so glad we're finally doing this.

[00:01:40] It took us a year.

[00:01:42] Yes, we've arrived.

[00:01:44] We've arrived.

[00:01:45] It's February.

[00:01:47] We're on like the baggage claims be claiming. Carousel five of life called Oh my goodness is wild and crazy. Oh, I feel that I am looking forward to next not this weekend but next weekend I have a photo shoot for the baggage claim

[00:03:00] podcast and we're doing it at actually you know what I'm

[00:03:03] going to do surprises right surprise is for the followers

[00:03:06] you'll see the new.

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[00:04:02] I like to call it a house hopped a lot. And I have gathered over the years and through my childhood,

[00:04:06] a plethora of different, what emotions look like,

[00:04:09] like from school teachers, counselors, foster home parents,

[00:04:15] the works, aunts, uncles, grandparents.

[00:04:19] And they kind of were nonexistent outside of anger.

[00:04:24] Even, you know, of's what I saw. I think a lot of people sometimes see about three emotions Right. Yeah from a child's point of view You don't really know what those are outside of their facial expressions or their communication, which is like nonverbal

[00:05:41] Right. I mean there's so much said without saying anything. Yeah, you know, I always felt

[00:06:42] Ooh, that's a good one. Joy, hmm.

[00:06:44] I would say it definitely is,

[00:06:48] I don't know necessarily what it would look like for me,

[00:06:50] but if I had to compare it to something

[00:06:53] that we can see that's ananimate,

[00:06:55] I would think a sunny day,

[00:06:58] walking across the sand,

[00:07:00] eating ice cream and not being sunburned.

[00:07:04] Okay.

[00:07:06] Joy is that, yeah, it's like that moment that you really would want the world to know about you. Hmm, something I would want the world to know about me. I think I would want them to know that my heart really is pure gold. I feel like I have learned over the years and just dealt with.

[00:08:21] I think I'm, I'm an attractive young lady.

[00:08:24] So even when I was growing up, you know, I had a lot of if a person rubs me wrong, like I can't quite get it, but there's something there. I'm not going to like write them off, but to write someone off for being kind, when kindness is free, right? Yes, exactly. It's free. Like anyone can do it, right? It's all inclusive. But I think what really gets me is it what it just shows is it reflects on them, right?

[00:09:45] Like, doesn't really have anything to do with you because why can't you accept kindness? They might need to skip over that. I feel like that during that age, a lot of times we are in relationships or situationships that we really shouldn't be in and we're not really using our decision-making. Right. Right. The functioning brain. It hasn't even grown. We're not rational enough. Yeah. But yes, for sure.

[00:11:02] I think mine would definitely be? Yeah, all of these are happening, right? Right here. I guess that's my birthday month. So it's the best one. Okay. So I know you don't want to stalkers and stuff.

[00:12:21] Right. So are you, what's your sign? Are you an Aquarius?

[00:12:24] I am an Aquarius.

[00:12:26] Okay.

[00:12:27] And do you have big plans for your birthday? hip hop or you a singer or? No, not at all. Sound good in the shower though. You know, I wasn't blessed with the pipes. I wish that I was, but I just, I wasn't blessed with the vocals. But you know, I still sing anyway. And I do it in the car. Like today I was doing late 90s, early 2000s pop.

[00:13:42] So good. So good. And they also had ballads, you know, commercialized holiday called Valentine's Day. And you're married and, and love. So you have a Valentine. I'm single and not. And I don't have a Valentine.

[00:15:00] I'm just okay with it.

[00:15:03] Cause I, you know, I doesn't go backwards. Like, we just don't get it back. So it's going to be okay. And things

[00:16:22] are going to work out. And you can do hard things. And it doesn't have to be aesthetically. Like what is the thing that you're like, if someone says that, you're like, thank you. My favorite compliment actually came today. You said I am multi-talented. Yes. And I, in all honesty and it's humble, as this may not sound, I know that I'm really good at a lot of things.

[00:17:42] And people say that to me in different forms,

[00:17:44] but no one has a word to say,

[00:17:46] you know what, you're trying to like leave a perfectionist mindset that like in your mind it's probably not great. Good enough, right? Best job, right? But to hear that and have that reassurance I really like. And I also

[00:20:06] looking and it's crazy because it does feel like it was like a fast forward from 2019 to 2024. It's like where did time go? But it also, it's also sped through my 30s like significantly,

[00:20:15] like things are just happening. Yes. And they don't stop happening. The carousel never stops and it's like doing the damn thing, right? I have two dogs, like I feel like the stuff that our parents, literally strive, accomplished, went through all these things and they're in the same age realm as I am

[00:21:41] and it makes me feel like, what is this life and why?

[00:21:45] Like literally, that's how it feels.

[00:21:47] Like I don't, I guess my expectations and ideals keep changing like every year. And does it change for you? Or are you staying kind of on, do you have your trajectory going? Yeah, it absolutely changes. I'm just standing there in the middle like, overthinking which road I should even take instead of even taking the taking the first step. Overthinking. I'm really trying to be one of those people that like, I stay in the present. I live in the present. But my mind can take me to the past years in the future. Seconds

[00:24:21] in the future. Absolutely.

[00:24:23] I'm making up things that I don stronger than that in posture. Yeah. So it's, it's a mix between the two. And I think that like, I don't know, girl, everything I feel like I had on like my prelist before I like turns 30, right? You know, you're like, you know, 25, you're like, I'm going to do all of these things. I feel like they have changed

[00:25:41] dramatically so much. Like career wise, I wanna move, you know, across to another country, I'm saying yes to moving, what does that mean? I'm saying no to then right now. Right. And then sitting in that, right?

[00:27:00] And then being okay with that.

[00:27:02] Yes, that's what I realized, you know,

[00:27:03] I was supposed to be, you know,

[00:27:05] moving to Denmark in like next month. like it's not going to be easy. And now that I have given myself more time and I'm really proud of myself because usually I wouldn't. And I even think about the living situation with the person I went to visit. And I think about how things happened because it was like a blast from the past,

[00:28:20] like an ex from a long time ago.

[00:28:22] Like I realized we hadn't seen to do it again. Again.

[00:29:40] And I feel that it has to be different how I get there and it has to be completely for

[00:29:47] me and so much for so long I was able to like lean on someone else right like whether it be my mom brother or someone who's dating or like my husband all of those things I almost never know what I mean? It's coming with a little bit more baggage with it instead of just lowering, being free. Right. Because it's another person involved on some form or it's a little. Yeah. Honestly from the past, so it's like.

[00:32:20] Right.

[00:32:21] It's bad.

[00:32:22] You know, it's, I's what I mean by like I could not quite emotionally regulate because I felt like I put a lot of pressure on myself and like it was just, it was a, and when I say regulate, I guess I feel like I couldn't be present.

[00:33:42] Like I wanted to be present.

[00:33:44] So I'm going back again in the summer.

[00:33:46] It was also cold, so it was cold as ice. to make sure that I can, because I met someone there, I'm going to consider her friend, she was great. There were tons of pluses, like I can see what it's going to look like over the rainbow, right? But in order for a rainbow to happen, there's going to be super like precipitation, right? And that's what I'm seeing, recognizing, and I just want to make sure

[00:35:02] that, or I am making sure that I just do it and do it kind of with ease. So it's a long one. It's like nine hours and 45 minutes. Well, I'm excited for you. Well, thank you. I'm sorry. I just like chatted, chatted, chatted. No, no good. You needed to process it. Yeah. Well, I already had therapy out there this morning. So, yeah, but you know, I've just give you the tools. You know, it give you the tools.

[00:36:22] It's kind of like, okay, let me put it into play. So that would be my baggage.

[00:37:23] I think that I'm just going back to the word of being overwhelmed. Um, that, that, that's my bag, my bag of baggage, right?

[00:37:27] Cause we have some, we have some luggage that is our favorite.

[00:37:32] Yes.

[00:37:34] And then we have some, we over pack sometimes.

[00:37:36] I feel like I'm in the over packs.

[00:37:40] I am typically a yes girl and, um,

[00:37:44] you're doing no, no, no, no.

[00:37:46] Yes.

[00:37:47] You know, and that's 30 and dealing with things from my family and friends who are going through things and I'm counselor at heart, right? Because I have it's my bag is overwhelmed with it in the bag. Well, I mean, what could lighten the load, theoretically, not, not an even an actual thing,

[00:40:23] just like a tiny step, like what, what to do it?

[00:40:26] Honestly, it's come.

[00:40:27] Honestly, you're too much, right? So

[00:43:03] I think it's okay to just enough. Well, I think you're doing so clearly clearly the same for me well girl How do you feel do you feel any lighter? I? Definitely feel lighter and I feel like I'm shit right because to go. Yeah. Yeah, I'm gonna do, I'm definitely checking in the I have to, I must, I have to, I must. Yes. And I'm taking out, I'm checking in those statements.

[00:44:23] Those are going and checking in because it puts, it's like the little things I'm the souvenir, I guess that I would bring with me from this is just discipline and not in an ugly, weird coach way, you know, champions

[00:45:40] or are born or may not born.

[00:45:43] I can't, I don't know what to say. that. Yeah, because then it's kind of just like us being consistent with caring about ourselves and doing something for us. Mm hmm. But then we're not putting that I must I have to you know on there because the air consistency could also be that day that you just rest. Right. Yeah. I like that. So then the other things are like instead of like I have to it's

[00:47:02] like I get to. I get to. We're going to have to do another recording. This was so great.

[00:48:23] Well, listeners, thank you as always for listening to baggage claim.